Condolences for your loss. Making cross country trips under those circumstances often takes away the option to make the trip as fun as possible but just in case, I’ll throw out a few ideas.
I make the drive from DFW to the Midwest glacier lake region a few times each year and pass through Indy. I’m also fairly familiar with the general area you’re headed to as my wife has family in the region.
One thing we did to honor the passing of a loved one in that area was to visit their favorite restaurant. If it’s in budget and time permits, I highly recommend
Joesph Decuis. It’s an outstanding farm to table restaurant in the part of Indiana you’re heading to. It’s only 30 minutes away from Decatur at 191 N Main St, Roanoke, IN 46783. They have exceptional food that I personally would never have expected to find there.
They have a limited farm to table menu that features Wagyu beef they raise. Dinner is only available Thursday-Saturday, lunch Tuesday-Saturday. Reservations are highly recommended for dinner. It’s expensive but most think it’s worth it if it’s within budget and you enjoy that kind of thing for special occasions.
If you play music or enjoy live music, Sweetwater is headquartered just southwest of Fort Wayne and worth a visit. Besides selling gear, they have live musical performances and a decent lunch cafe.
Also depending on when you make it, the annual
Indy Boat, Sport and Travel Show is currently going on Feb 17-19 and 22-26 at the Indy State Fairgrounds.
Regarding getting from here to there, I’ve tried multiple different routes over the past few years mostly because I wanted to see something new along the route or do some fishing, hunting or chasing wildlife images. Plus I often go different ways to visit friends or family along the way.
Most importantly for planning the trip, I’ve learned to always check the weather and road conditions first to avoid flooding, thunderstorms (hail/tornados) and occasionally blizzards. Major flooding between here and Indy is often a real thing so I check for flooding or flood warnings first as you have to cross the Mississippi and many of the smaller rivers to get there. There is currently a flood warning for parts of the White River in Arkansas so keep an eye on that if you go that direction.
Strong thunderstorms are often a considerations so I often plan two routes and make the final route decision based on the forecast the day of departure. You can check weather forecast along your route with many different apps now.
If you’re traveling with a pup,
BringFido is a good resource to find places to stay that allow dogs.
From where I start the trip, it’s a toss up between going through St. Louis or Nashville. In general, while a tad longer for me, when weather and time allows, I’ve taken 40 to 65 through Nashville. Overall, that route has had the best road conditions with minimal construction for the past two years. Because of weather, time or where I’m overnighting, I often end up going through 69-75 to Big Cabin then I-44 to Joplin to St. Louis.
For much of the past few years OK has had tons of road construction so it’s a good idea to check it out and avoid any construction if possible. I did come back that way in December and OK roads were in better shape but it can change depending on construction schedules.
After the fuel availability issues in the recent past, now I also check on fuel availability along the route. I’m usually driving a vehicle with the smaller, auto size fuel intake that requires low sulfur highway diesel. Turns out the good people of IL only have biodiesel at the auto pumps available along my route so I have to plan stops before or after IL. I tend to plan stops before or after IL anyway for other reasons. Unlike some, I don’t mind crossing IL when going through St. Louis as it’s less than 2 hours to transit the state between MO to IN along I-70. On the other hand, if you go up 57 to 70, it’s over 200 miles in the Land of Lincoln. A little planning for stops before and after goes a long way to avoid potential issues with IL. If you carry, make sure you’re familiar with IL laws.
If you make it a two day trip and happen to stay in Rolla, MO, there is a decent BBQ restaurant next to hotels that are pup friendly.
Bandana's Bar-B-Q RollaAlso, once you get into Indiana, be really careful about driving at dawn or night. The deer up there are huge and abundant. Once you get off the Interstate, they are a serious road hazard at dawn, sunset and throughout the night. If you see skid marks, slow down.
Safe travels~