Stopped in at Popeyes a couple days ago and my purchase totaled $10.81. Gave the young girl $21. She just blankly stared at me for a minute before I told her "Just give me a ten and the change." I was doing her a favor for not taking all her ones. She finally got it.

Here is a secret on how to handle “altercations” like this. Most replies are quick snaps to respond to those verbal attacks and try to get back at that person and cut them deep.

Seriously, if you can train yourself to pause 4-5 seconds before replying it would be a huge change on outcomes. It is very difficult to master, unless of course it is in your nature. But if it is not it will truly benefit you. This can also be applied when it’s not confrontational as well.

Try it.

Yes! In an adversarial encounter, a controlled silence coupled with a hard stare can be intimidating in itself.
It also helps in personal relationships by avoiding blurting out something you can't back.

Yes! In an adversarial encounter, a controlled silence coupled with a hard stare can be intimidating in itself.
It also helps in personal relationships by avoiding blurting out something you can't back.

It took me way to long to learn this.

But I finally learned it.

Tlk, read the red above.

My neighbor decided to have an estate sale before moving. I told him I would never invite strangers into my home. He laughed. 4 hours later he was cuffed in his front yard for pushing a black woman out of the door because he didn't like the way she was arguing over the price.

I doubt he broke even after attorney and court costs.